They say, “Life is like a box of chocolates, you never know what you’re going to get.” This particularly rings true out in relationship and dating world. Someone may look like the perfect package, everything you are looking for but then you unwrap the exterior, have a taste and they are glazed cherry or orange cream! (Yuk!)

How many times is it ok to try again or take another bite? We are all guilty of it, hell, I sure am but sometimes despite all the advice from those around you, telling you not to you just have to give it one more go and see for yourself. To be honest, there’s nothing wrong with that. For instance, I used to hate broccoli as a kid and after much negotiation every night with my parents, we used to make a deal that I could leave the dinner table if I at least are the florets. I used to put it all in my mouth, pretend to eat it, take my plate to the bin to ‘clean it’ and spit out my broccoli. Now I absolutely love it. Eat it on anything and love it cooked, raw or however else it comes! Ok, I digress but what I’m trying to say is our tastes change. Unfortunately though, when it comes to people, a majority of the time the ones who leave a foul and bitter taste in your mouth after the first time, always will.

It’s up to us to learn from mistakes. Apparently, that’s what separates us from the animals. You will always find those who think there are exceptions though. Some go back and try to continue creating a normal life for themselves with that person, everyday being a constant struggle but with the hope that one day that person will change. Hopes that they will grow up, care for you and love you as much as they do themselves or become a good parent. While others are not even that far along and keep being promised the world a million times over only to be let down and neglected each and every time.

It’s hard to watch when you see it happen to those you love time and time again. All you can do is offer a little insight and more importantly your support and hope that they will eventually see the situation for what it is. We can only hope they come to terms with believing that they deserve better. Life is too short to be miserable from some disrespect-able arsehole or to settle for what you have. No one should ever settle for less than they deserve. We are all entitled to the very best for ourselves. If we can’t enjoy our life, then what really is the purpose?!

Personally, I’ve been through it all myself. A lot of us have. You’re in a great relationship with someone in the beginning, then people or certain things change for the worst. You know, all the usual stuff, whether they cheat, lie, turn to some religious colt and try brainwashing you or all of the above. The relationship then ends or you go on a ‘break’ whether it’s your choice or theirs and then into the depressing spiral of being back out there in the single world. It can be lonely out there at first and sometimes the only person you think you can talk to is your ex. All of a sudden you’re back together for whatever reason and we repeat everything all over again. We’ve all done it but some of us need to move to the next chapter.

“Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me”

Get out there, find someone new. Let life happen. We all deserve the best of everything. You will find your ‘one’ when you least expect it. Trust me, I know. I found my true love on the other side of the world. I moved from Australia to Canada without even giving it too much of a thought (sorry mum and dad). How do you know what true love is and how do you know you found it you might ask? Trust me, you don’t have to ask. You just know!

*Nic Sharkey is by no means a psychologist, expert or guru but he is on to something here.


Just a few photos of us fooling around in front of the camera out in the mountains by the rail tracks. Not normally a fan of using too many filters but I could’t resist for these.

My beautiful girl soaking up the fresh mountain air. Love you baby xxxxxxo

After an absolute crazy long weekend last week, we just needed some fresh air and a chance to finally breathe. I picked up Ash on my way home from work on the Tuesday and we headed west in search of mountains and sushi. Just what the doctor ordered!

Talking about friends is an interesting subject. I have been lucky in my life to have the most amazing friends anyone could ask for. Some I have grown up with since I was 3 or 4 to the people who I have met and been friends with since primary and secondary school and the others who I have met along the way.

I have found since living over here in Canada that people refer to others as their best friends or simply just their friends. I really don’t think I can do that. I have been asked many times about who is my best friend from people over here. It sort of brings me back to being in prep or grade 1, it is such a foreign thing to me that I don’t think I could ever get used to. I have acquaintance’s, I have some friends and I have some amazing friends. I don’t think if even a person put a bullet to my head I could pick a best friend! Everyone to me is special in their own way and i love them for that.

As I mentioned, I have some friends who go a long way. I feel like I am such a lucky person to go through such friendships. These friendships I speak of are from people from back home, in Australia who I know I will see again. They have meant so much to me and basically shaped me to who I am today. I have wondered whether I would find people as amazing as the ones I love so much from home and to be honest never really thought I would. I have to say that after 11 months, I think I am on the right track. I am not going to mention names, I haven’t through this whole rant but they know who they are. Some through work, some through Ash. I will never, ever replace the friendships I have in Australia, I wouldn’t ever dream of it but there are some real genuine people over here who I have taken a shining to and I look forward to continuing what we have throughout my time both here and anywhere else. Tonight really proved that.

I am a lucky person. I seem to find love wherever I go. I would never change what I have and what I have been through with anyone. I don’t think of myself as a religious person but I truly feel blessed for what I have.

My life is pretty amazing.

It’s crazy to think that we have known each other over the past 3 Valentine’s Days but this is the first one we have actually spent together!

To my beautiful, curly haired, blue sparkly dress and fluffy white mini jacket thingy wearing girlfriend, I would like to let you and the world know just how much I love you. We are fast approaching a year since we have been living together here in Calgary and it only feels like yesterday I flew over with my life in 2 suitcases and a backpack.

Thank you for helping me getting so settled in this weird country of yours so easily and making my life so amazing. I love you so much Ashley Carol Mitty.

Love Nic xxoo